Why Being Selfish is Good
I think we’ve likely all been there. That moment when you realize what day it is and wonder how you got here. The feeling that the last week has been an absolute blur because you have been running around for errands, birthday parties, work, kids’ activities, library books, groceries, etc. and haven’t had a moment to truly just BE. The list goes on and on and while yes, you feel productive knowing you’ve checked things off of your list, perhaps those checkmarks are so regular in your life that you wonder why you feel like you’re treading water sometimes. Sometimes it feels like we’ve lost the freedom we all crave in our lives.
As Moms, we put everything into our families. Or, at least, I do but I feel like I’m not alone. Moms have this innate desire to make sure our kids are healthy, happy and well taken care of. However, I feel that in this space where we place ourselves in life, we get lost. We forget that in order to have become a Mom, we had to be a woman first. We had lives outside our homes and place of work.
Here’s what I’ve discovered. Not just as a mom, but as a human being. I need to respect and put a priority on my values and feelings. When my life is feeling a little like it’s overloaded, I need to get back to the basics of what makes me tick. It’s creating that space in my life where I feel like I OWN the time I have at that moment. It’s a feeling of freedom.
*my morning power hours is crucial. Even if that morning power hour is 5 minutes long. That power hour is spent in quiet and I may read, meditate, stretch, go for a walk, or whatever I feel my body craves and needs.
*my exercise. Whether I am at the gym, going for a walk/hike/run, or working out at home, exercise is crucial for my health and well-being.
*quiet time. I am an introvert at heart. I feel much happier if I have been able to carve out just ten minutes of quiet time each day. Sometimes it’s at the end of teh day
*chiropractic adjustments. I know that I adapt to stress much better when my nervous system is clear and with zero interference.
*essential oils. There is something so beautiful about diffusing Serenity, Balance, OnGuard and Easy Air at different times throughout the day. Add in some Elevation, Citrus Bliss, Eucalyptus, Wild Orange, and Lavender and I’m pretty much covering all of my bases between supporting my immune system, adapting to stress at a better level, and making my soul happy.
Making my soul happy. Deliciously happy.
And making my soul deliciously happy is at least a step in the right direction towards freedom. I may not be hopping a plane to paradise but creating inner freedom is good too.
The more intention I choose to place on my happiness and state of peace, I feel like the perceived monotony of life right now is more tolerable. I make no excuses for being selfish with my personal time. Regardless of what is happening with my family, I can still prioritize my own health and well-being. Waking up an extra 30 minutes early in the morning, even though I could easily use some more sleep, means that I get to breathe a little deeper and plan my day before it begins.
Before applying the oxygen mask to the people who depend on you, attach your own oxygen mask first. Sound advice. And advice that I choose to follow in times where people are needing me to take care of them more than usual. I’m choosing to also take care of myself.